I went to a masseuse who called me a "big man".

I was offended because he called me big and defined my gender.

I talked to a male friend of mine and he said it sounded like a compliment.


 

I'm overweight enough that, on dating apps, I'm categorized as "large." Because of body-shaming culture, I attract potential matches who specifically like fat men. It would be to my advantage if I also had a fetish.

 

However, don't get me wrong. I have nothing against fetishes.

 

By the way are you top or bottom?