REFUSE DEFINITION

 

Or seemingly invites choice, signals the possibility of an alternative — this or this? Or promises something somehow different, by opening the experience of what is in the direction of what might be. Or has the capacity to question how things are, suggesting that there is another way. Still, despite its seemingly affirmative, perhaps even utopian, potential, or can sometimes serve to close things down or stifle. Or can create a proliferation of possibilities that leads only to dissatisfaction and doubt — the disquiet of discontent, the fear of missing out or of a wrong decision taken. Or can force one’s hand, requiring a selection is made, preference declared between two mutually exclusive options. In this sense, or reinforces the binary logic of opposites, necessitating the categorical distinction between this or that, either/or, yes/no. Positive/negative. Active/passive. Open/closed. Belief/doubt. Thinking/feeling. Refusing definition — neither/nor not either/or. Where or mediates the unfolding of events, with every opportunity seized, others have been abandoned, cast aside. Yet in every preference, the shadow of rejection or exclusion lurks. With every yes there is an unavoidable no, inevitable negation. The privileging of this can easily diminish the value of that. Find ways to harness the transformative capacity of the or (for opening things up or out) while at the same time seeking to stymie its more constricting effects (its tendency to oppose and divide).


From Emma Cocker, How Do You Do? (Nottingham: Beam Editions, 2023)