KEEP COMPANY
In archaic terms, the word conversation carries the meaning of the place where one lives or dwells, from conversari — to live, dwell, live with, to keep company with. Conversation as a practice then for dwelling or residing (in language). Conversation — to turn about with, from com- meaning with, together and versare, to turn or bend. Conversation increases the potential for twists and turns of thought, where the trajectory of one’s thinking might be thrown unexpectedly off course by the other’s interjection or response. Interject — to throw between, impel, to set in motion. Yet the sudden twist of thinking might also refer to more than a moment of turn. Twist has its origins in the act of dividing or separating (in two) as well as the combining of two into one, like when spinning two or more strands of yarn to make a single thread or rope. In conversation, the singular thread of one thinking-speaking subject becomes twisted with the yarn of the other’s turn of phrase and thought. Conversation might require the blending of subjectivities in hope of a shared language, the making of a shared world. Blend — to mix in such a way as to mingle, becoming inextinguishable. Here, conversation is not owned by one or the other speaking subject nor is it even produced between, rather it belongs to the event of conversation itself. Towards the building of mutual trust. To trust the other, trust the process, trust the practice. Trust — to rely on the veracity or integrity of someone or something. Yet this trust is less about having confidence in the capacity of one’s own words, self-assuredness on the part of the individual speaker. Rather it comes from one’s willingness to let go or become less guarded in one’s speech, to enjoy the confidence of another, the private intimacy of conversation held in confidence.
From Emma Cocker, How Do You Do? (Nottingham: Beam Editions, 2023)